Week 9 – “Lord, Please Help Me Get One More…”

Desmond T. Doss.  Incredible man.

Conscientious Objector.  He would not compromise his beliefs and convictions, no matter what the cost…and cost there was.

No matter.  In due time, those once against him respected him, trusted him, depended on him, and even waited on him, as he communed with his God, before going into battle.

Why?

One day of horrific battle, he rescued 75 fallen comrades.  He would not leave them on the battle field.  He prayed, “Lord, please help me get one more.”  He’d get one.  Then he’d pray again, “Lord, please help me get one more.”  And this carried on for 12 hours till he had rescued all 75.

For the details, I’ll let you watch the 1 hour 41 minute documentary on YouTube, or the movie, Hacksaw Ridge, directed by Mel Gibson.  (Warning:  The movie is VERY graphic and intense).

My mind was deeply impressed by Desmond Doss and I continue to think of him and what he did.

He had unwavering commitment to God, to his family, to his beliefs, to his comrades… to everything, no matter what it cost him or could cost him.  Do I?

His prayer for help to get one more…and continuing that 75 times over 12 hours in the most dangerous and extreme war conditions one could ever experience…was answered.  For example, there was a Japanese soldier who reported that many times Desmond was in his sight, but every time he went to take the shot, his gun jammed.  Divine intervention.

How easy it could have been to succumb to fear in the midst of the terror, and be concerned for himself and abandon his comrades to save his own life.  Yet he did neither.

I’m not fighting in a declared war, with my life one gunshot away from over.  I’m not in a situation where I am pushed to my physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual limits like I expect Desmond must have been.

I am in a battle… for my mind.  Negative thoughts come in, and I have a choice.  Do I dwell on them, entertain them, or turn away from them and immediately focus on positive thoughts instead?  I love that it’s that simple.  I get to choose, in that second, to focus on good things.  This changes everything.

I am in a battle… for legacy.  Am I living a life of mediocrity, or am I living a life on the edge, pushing myself to be better, excellent, a masterpiece?  Am I hiding the gifts and talents I have been given or using them to touch people’s lives in a deep way, making a positive difference in the world?  Playing small or playing big, and inspiring others to play big too?

“It takes courage…to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.”  Marianne Williamson

Desmond Doss.  Inspiring.

Monica Munro.  Deeper self discovery.  Important questions.  The answers are coming.

Big Hugs,

Love,

Monica

 

 

 

Week 8 – Giving…

For the last two weeks I’ve been praying for greater power in observing, so that I am aware of opportunities to serve others.

Ask and you shall receive.

In one instance, I was not specifically asked to do anything.  I just recognized an opportunity to serve someone and it was fun and it felt really good to do it and I was able to easily work it into my schedule.

Another instance was a direct request on Thursday night.  I had scheduled that whole evening with numerous things that I absolutely needed to accomplish and was in the thick of it when I received a call at 8:45pm asking me to do something which involved an hour drive each way and time there doing what they needed me to do.  There were a few different thoughts going on in my head in that moment, like “why would you wait till this hour to ask me to do something like this?” and “I’ve got so much work to get done both tonight and tomorrow morning~I will not be able to get it all done if I do this”…  So I said “Yes”, hopped in my car, had a great conversation with my Dad on the drive there, and a couple people on the drive home, and arrived home at midnight.  It was a sacrifice of my original plans, yet it was a few hours filled with value just the same.

Sometimes serving others isn’t convenient at all.  When I was praying for opportunities to serve others, was I only meaning when it was something I wanted to do and when it was convenient for me?  Or did I really mean unconditional serving?

I got to experience various “thoughts” around it, which was good.  I got to choose.  I said “Yes” and got to experience the joy of seeing how happy and thankful the person I helped was afterwards.

Lessons… not always easy, or wanted, but always valuable.

Big Hugs,

Monica

Week 7 – Wow! So Cool!!!

What a phenomenal, cool, awesome, crazy good, fabulous, impressive, INCREDIBLE week!

Looking at it objectively, it was a physically demanding week, with 5 intense days, 4 of which consisted of 13 hours of work each day, with no sitting down for 10 of those hours.  Expending massive energy.  Talking almost non-stop.  Grueling, really.  Overall, there were only a few periodic moments of recognizing how tired my body was, and I pushed through them.

Those 4 days…even though they were taxing on my body, my mind was alert and positive, and I was joyful.  Yes, people would say I’m like this pretty much all the time, but I saw a big shift in myself.  This was deeper.  Much deeper.  I greeted each day with love in my heart.  I greeted hundreds of people with love in my heart.  For the first time, I added humor to my presentations and people laughed.  It was so much fun for me to see people laugh and know I created that experience for them, if even just for a few seconds.  I gave people a gift and I felt so good doing it.

I’ve been a better observer this week and have seen ways I could serve others, and I did.  I feel more engaged with people.  I always like to make eye contact with people and this week I’m seeing more people looking me in the eyes.  I love it!  I’m so happy to be alive and healthy!  I’m grateful!  I feel so good inside!

Some random shares…

One night last week, I was driving at night and I looked ahead to the ramp on the right of me and saw many red stoplights and numerous cars with all their red tail lights lit up.  LIBERTY!!!  That was so cool!

And guess what?!  I made a bunch of calls!!!!  I set up a bunch of appointments to meet with people!  I’m still making calls.  There’s not all the “stuff” around them anymore.  When I make the calls, there is an enthusiasm in my voice.  I can hear it!

Years of failure at making calls, and now this?  What’s made the difference?   I changed my thoughts around them, coupled with the Haanel, Mandino, and Januszewski readings I’ve been doing.  Plus, I made a recording of myself speaking (with enthusiasm, confidence and power) my new thinking around making calls, along with my values (I am love.  I am confident.  I am persistent.  I am consistent.  I am skilled.), and one of my pivotal personal needs (Liberty!) to a karaoke version of the song, “Incredible” playing in the background.  I play it every day.

Again, all I can say is INCREDIBLE!  I’m loving MKMMA and the changes I’m seeing in myself and how I’m thinking!  YES!!!!!

Big Hugs,

Love,

Monica

 

 

Week 6 – Nothing is Impossible

Nothing is impossible!  I believe that!  I even believe that for me!  Now it’s just a matter of right thinking, love, and execution.

For years I have had an issue/challenge/problem with making phone calls… phone calls that will build my business and move me closer to fulfilling my dreams.  Sounds silly, really.  What’s so hard about making phone calls to people?  I have ideas, thoughts, stories around it, but that’s all they are.  I’ll easily go knock on someone’s door before I’ll ever pick up a phone.  I’ve done all sorts of things to overcome this…accountability partners, writing down my “why”, thinking about all the people and ways I could help them if I just pick up the phone and call them, scheduling the time to call and sitting there and then coming up with all sorts of things that are more important to do at that moment in time than pick up the phone and I do those instead.  I’ve pumped myself up, “committed” to making calls, and even sat in the same room with other people who were there making calls because that’s what we were there to do, and all with the same result…no calls made, or maybe one call made.  The thing that has moved me the closest to making calls is saying to myself, “I GET to make calls” instead of “I have to make calls.”  It’s a different and more positive mental attitude.  Regardless, my success rate at making calls is dismal at best.

As Og Mandino says in The Greatest Salesman in The World, “I have surrendered my free will to the years of accumulated habits and the past deeds of my life have already marked out a path which threatens to imprison my future.”  He further says, “Good habits are the key to all success.  Bad habits are the unlocked door to failure.  Thus, …I will form good habits and become their slave.

Okay, I get it.  My years of “intention to make calls” followed by years of failure after failure after failure have left me with feeling such ignominious personal defeat.  This path I’m on is a jail cell and my dreams are all outside that cell.  I’ve got to get out of this cell.  Reading Og gives me hope.  I can change this bad habit of phone call failure into a good habit.  He says, “Soon these actions and reactions become easy to perform, for any act with practice becomes easy.  Thus a new and good habit is born, for when an act becomes easy through constant repetition it becomes a pleasure to perform and if it is a pleasure to perform it is man’s nature to perform it often.  As I perform it often it is now a habit and I am its slave and since it is a good habit it is my will.”

Well, I’ve been reading this for a month now.  I have a very clear awareness of what it’s costing me.  Just get in the habit of practicing making phone calls, Monica.  Soon enough, they’ll become easy through constant repetition, and then they’ll become a pleasure to perform, and then I’ll be making calls easily and often, and my dreams will be my reality.  And, I still only made 3 calls this week.

Reading the “Gal in the Glass” poem in the mirror the first night brought some intense emotion to the surface when I read the line, “But your final reward will be heartaches and tears if you’ve cheated the gal in the glass.”  Wow!  That hit home.  I have been cheating myself all these years.  Cheating myself!!!  That’s a horrible realization, especially when I look at my future.  If I keep this bad habit up, I’m going to continue cheating myself.

I then read the Blueprint Builder and recorded my thoughts because I recognized something very important.  I’ve been cheating myself through my thinking.  My world within creates my world without.  My world within for years has been dwelling on how phone calls are hard for me.  I don’t know why I can’t make phone calls.  I tried and failed again.  I even set up accountability and I still couldn’t make the calls.  I promised myself I’d make calls and I didn’t.  Phone calls are so hard.  They’re too difficult.  What is my problem?  Why can’t I make calls?  Negative, negative, negative.  Defeatist attitude.  Ingrained negative thinking.  Entrenched bad habits.  This has become my “norm” so that whenever I do make a phone call and feel successful and good about myself, it’s so contrary to my brain’s wiring and firing status quo that I’ve got to get back to my norm of making no calls as quickly as possible, and unfortunately, that’s easy to do.  Hence, my world without can be summarized by no calls and unfulfilled dreams.

So the time has come to rewire my brain, to re-train my thoughts, to scrutinize each thought around making phone calls.

I’ve done 2 new things:

  1.  I’ve added “I talk to 3 people a day about my business” to my service card, and “I always keep my promises” now.  I’ve been successful since I added that.  Since I’m still practicing making calls, if I’ve only had success making one call, then I’ll fulfill my 3 people commitment through face to face.  My intention is to retrain my thinking around calls, and I know it’s step by step.
  2.  I’ve written down my new thoughts on a service card and today I start reading them 3 times a day.  I now focus on them.  I dwell on them.  These new thoughts will soon be my “normal” thinking around phone calls.  My brain is being rewired.

In addition, I love Og’s Scroll Marked II.  I will greet this day with love in my heart.  I know this scroll will help me with my new thinking about phone calls.  Nothing is impossible…not even phone calls.

I CAN BE WHAT I WILL TO BE!

Big hugs,

Monica